Rona Okin, LCSW · Psychotherapist · NYC
whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.
— William Shakespeare
Everyone Grieves Differently
Perhaps you’ve heard that everyone processes grief differently, and that is true. Initially feeling flooded with emotion — or alternatively feeling numb — are normal when there is a shock to the system. Everything may feel unreal or as if in a dream. Your movements may slow, or you may become hyper and agitated. Chest or abdominal pains, headaches, and nausea may be experienced. Food may lose its appeal and you may feel as if you have no appetite. You may notice changes in weight, increased fatigue, troubles with sleep, crying, sadness, anger, anxiety, feelings of emptiness and moments of despair. You may also experience guilt or feelings of responsibility if you had unfinished business around the loss.
Guess what? All of these symptoms are normal for people who have experienced loss.
But just because these symptoms are normal does not mean that you have to cope with the grieving or bereavement process alone. It’s OK to reach out for help at any time when you’re recovering from loss. And it’s an especially good idea to think about coming in to talk when the symptoms are intense or long-lasting and threaten to sideline your functioning at home, socially or on the job.
Feeling Pressured to “Get Over It”?
Following a loss it may sometimes feel as if others have moved on with their lives relatively unscathed while you continue to feel stuck and struggle to move forward . Try not to judge yourself for taking whatever time you need to process the changes in your life. Eventually you will recover and move beyond your grief, but it may not be at the pace that seems right for others. Coming to therapy to help bridge the gap between your old life (pre-loss) and your new life after the loss can be a gift of kindness to yourself.
Grief Recovery in NYC: How I Can Help
Processing your loss (or losses) in psychotherapy means that you are not alone with your pain: I will be your witness, sounding board and support through the grief recovery process.
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Call to schedule a time to meet with me at my therapy office on New York City’s Upper East Side.
Through the psychotherapy process you can heal the losses you’ve experienced and enable yourself to open to love once again. I look forward to hearing from you.